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Not Too Tight, Not Too Loose
Not too tight, not too loose. I eat a delicious Nutella cookie that my daughter just made and feel deep gratitude that I don’t deprive myself of its pleasure or binge on 10 cookies before being able to stop. Not too tight, not too loose. I go for a run and connect to deep joy [...]
Read MoreRedefining Recovery
This Saturday, I am taking part in a panel with Marya Hornbacher, author of the book Wasted. We’ll be discussing what recovery from an eating disorder really means, exploring such questions as: Can an eating disorder patient ever fully recover? What does recovery look like and how long might “it” take? Does recovery only mean [...]
Read MoreCould an Irish grandfather be the Buddha?
My father in law unexpectedly passed away last Thursday. My little family immediately flew to Boston where we participated in the wake and the funeral. I loved Bob. Bob always made me feel special and unconditionally loved. We could not have come from more different backgrounds and yet, I never felt the difference. As I [...]
Read MoreThe road less traveled
Last month, road crews closed the route I drive to work every day. I was desperate to find a new road that would not take more time and effort. I bitched about it; whined about it; and, generally, protested the fact that I was forced to change my precious habit. The road more traveled had effectively been shut [...]
Read MoreWhy do I love criticism so much?
I just received multiple emails telling me how I’ve changed people’s lives. And I received one that told me how to make my course “better”. Can you guess what happened to me? I completely missed the praise and held on to the “criticism”, dropping me into anxiety and fear that I sucked as a therapist [...]
Read MoreHow Julie Stopped Bingeing
Julie came to me because she struggled with a severe case of binge eating. She had tried to stop it in various ways, including counting calories, weighing her food, locking up her refrigerator, and cutting out all sugar. Nothing worked. Let me rephrase that. Her various ways did work, but they only worked temporarily. She’d [...]
Read More“I’m craving a pint of ice cream NOW. What do I do?”
“I’m craving a pint of ice cream NOW but I’m not really hungry! What do I do?” Those of us who struggle with eating issues often get quite anxious about experiencing cravings. We are doing just fine, eating lovely balanced meals, when the urge to eat ice cream – or cookies, chips, macaroni and cheese, [...]
Read MoreHoliday Support Webinar
My holiday gift to you, my community, is below. In this 50-minute presentation, I’ve distilled my best tools and insights to help support you during this special (and often difficult) time of year! Enjoy! Thank you for watching! To thank you for coming, I have one more holiday gift for you! Enter your info [...]
Read MoreMy body deserves thanks, too
On this Thanksgiving week, I’d like to give thanks to my body, as it so often gets ignored and forgotten from my gratitude list. The following writing moved through me the other night, unbidden but highly welcome. Tuesday night 10pm: I’m so grateful right now because I’m seeing my body for the miracle that it [...]
Read MoreOwning All Of Who I Am!
“I am NOT selfish! ” I yell at my husband Brian defensively. I am outraged that he could say such a thing, even though I know deep inside of me that he is right. Why do I spend so much time defending against certain aspects of my personality? This single action creates so much suffering [...]
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